Becoming POZ wasn't the end of my life.
It was the beginning!!!
I am a versatile bottom who got infected by someone who stealthed me (he tore the condom tip). Now I don't ask / don't tell and luv bareback. most guys i fuck with will just initiate bb and don't discuss status - so i do not raise the issue either. i believe i have infected some people this way. as sane adults if they had wanted to stay negative, i feel they have to take resposibility to play safe - i never lied, force or stealth them - why should i patronise them or act like a saint.i have not met a single person who will say to you 'Hey, i am poz. Are you cool with that? Do you want to use condom?'
I was tested a couple of months ago and I'm still neg. I'm 59 years old (bottom) and have had bareback sex 90% of the time through my life. I have other health issues now that are my concern but not HIV related. I'm not looking to get poz'd but I'm not that sexually active anymore these days anyway. I can't explain my luck as far as far as my HIV status is concerned since I've lost 2 partners and many friends to AIDS but there must be a scientific reason for it. There should be more studies of men like me who have survived this long. Just sayin'.
I was infected by a hook-up(on 'gayromeo'). I asked him his status 2X and he told me he was negative twice. So I figured, it would be safe to bareback(especially me topping him). I then converted and was really shocked at my results. To this day, I don't harbor any ill feelings towards the guy and I just deal with it. Although, I do often ask myself, in contracting the HIV+ infection, would my feelings towards the guy who pozzed me change if, there were no meds for the disease(always a question in the back of my mind).I only play with POZ men and I only FUCK RAW.
I recently tested Poz..I got inflected by a guy I had bb( I the bottom) sex on Adam, his profiled stated he was negative, but months pass by and I notice his profile had changed and the HIV status was blank. I developed an eye inflection and was prompted to get tests done and that's how I found out I was Poz..I don't have hard feeling towards the guy. In my opinion the problem is people don't get tested often and don't know thier status or are just don't care. At the end of the day it is one responsibility to take care of yourself and if want to stay hiv- you must always practice safe sex including oral sex.We are grateful we live in a time where we have access to great drugs to keeps us Poz guys healthy. With that being said, would I chose to be Poz? the answer is NO...
I was dating a guy for a few months and we decided that it was time to be monogamous and there was no need for protection. Well, he lied to me about his status and here I am. I was devastated, and dumped the jackass (not because he was poz, but because he lied to me ... I really thought I could've spent the rest of the my life with him, but not if he's gonna lie to me). I'm dating a different guy now .. he's neg and we play safe. But we live about an hour apart, so we play separately, and I prefer bb when I hookup. I'm vers & open about my status, and let the other guy decide if either one of us wraps up .. but I don't bring my own condoms.